I’ve shared this post on a blogsite I was using before I switched over here but I think it worth sharing for every man and woman to read in order to fulfill and enjoy the purpose of marriage between a man and a woman. You need to note that marriage is a union between two matured (physically, spiritually, emotionally, financially and mentally) adults in order to fulfill God’s plan for them.
I want to talk about a man in the Bible that was mentioned once but he had my admiration and respect for him. To be sincere with you such kind of a man is quite rare nowadays, but I know we can still find them and if possible I want to be like him God’s willing.
Well, I’m talking about Lapidoth, he was the husband of Deborah the prophetess, one of the judges used by God to deliver the children of Israel from their various captivities.
Lapidoth was only found in one place in the Bible, and that is Judges 4:4. What does that implies? It simply shows me that I don’t need to be under the spotlight before I can fulfill God’s plan for my life. There is this popular saying that says “Behind every successful man there is a woman.” How about this “Behind every successful woman there is a man.”? This shows both the man and the woman needs each other, just like the saying “No man is an island.”
See, Lapidoth does not even crave for attention, he never tries to be a barrier to God’s purpose and calling for his wife, instead he supported her. How many men is willing to do that for their wives?
Lapidoth refused to be a stumbling block to his wife’s ministry of delivering the children of Israel from their enemies. You need to note as a man that your wife, fiancee and girlfriend as a God’s given purpose for her life. Have you taken time to know about it or you are only concern about yourself alone?
Lapidoth supported his wife and stand with her without grumbling or complaining. He did not crave for attention or recognition, instead he was there behind the scene supporting his wife’s ministry with prayers and godly advices whenever she needed them. I can actually imagine the disdains and mockery of his friends and relatives and how they would have called him so many bad names such as foolhardy, zombie, maga/mumu. They would have thought his wife was using magic/witchcraft on him. Not Surprisingly, the same still happens nowadays. But Lapidoth will never allow their hurtful words of insults and ridicules get to him, he was fully focused on the ministry of his wife, Deborah. He was a man that understands the way God works.
Thankfully and fortunately, I have seen, known and heard of men like Lapidoth in this our contemporary time who faithfully and steadfastly support their wives’/women’s purposes in life. We need to note that our women’s/wives’ purpose in life is not limited to church or home alone but virtually everywhere. These men never see their women’s successes as obstacles nor do they see them as hindrances to their own goals in life.
See, I want to be an exemplary husband like Lapidoth if God’s will, even when the world calls me foolhardy or mumu (fool). If you are still thinking that your woman’s success in life will not allow her to submit to you as her husband, then you must be suffering from inferiority complex and your ego will not allow you to see how weak you are.
Let it always be your joy and happiness that your wife, sister, daughter and girlfriend is doing so well in life. Support her, don’t let any man/woman/relatives/parents/friends dicourage you from helping her to fulfil God’s purpose and plan for her life.
Always dare to be like Lapidoth!!
God bless you as you strive to be like Lapidoth.