Are You Like Lapidoth?

I’ve shared this post on a blogsite I was using before I switched over here but I think it worth sharing for every man and woman to read in order to fulfill and enjoy the purpose of marriage between a man and a woman. You need to note that marriage is a union between two matured (physically, spiritually, emotionally, financially and mentally) adults in order to fulfill God’s plan for them.

You are to be helpers and comforters to each other

I want to talk about a man in the Bible that was mentioned once but he had my admiration and respect for him. To be sincere with you such kind of a man is quite rare nowadays, but I know we can still find them and if possible I want to be like him God’s willing.

Well, I’m talking about Lapidoth, he was the husband of Deborah the prophetess, one of the judges used by God to deliver the children of Israel from their various captivities.

Lapidoth was only found in one place in the Bible, and that is Judges 4:4. What does that implies? It simply shows me that I don’t need to be under the spotlight before I can fulfill God’s plan for my life. There is this popular saying that says “Behind every successful man there is a woman.” How about this “Behind every successful woman there is a man.”? This shows both the man and the woman needs each other, just like the saying “No man is an island.”

As a man your wife needs your help just like you need hers.

See, Lapidoth does not even crave for attention, he never tries to be a barrier to God’s purpose and calling for his wife, instead he supported her. How many men is willing to do that for their wives?

Lapidoth refused to be a stumbling block to his wife’s ministry of delivering the children of Israel from their enemies. You need to note as a man that your wife, fiancee and girlfriend as a God’s given purpose for her life. Have you taken time to know about it or you are only concern about yourself alone?

Lapidoth supported his wife and stand with her without grumbling or complaining. He did not crave for attention or recognition, instead he was there behind the scene supporting his wife’s ministry with prayers and godly advices whenever she needed them. I can actually imagine the disdains and mockery of his friends and relatives and how they would have called him so many bad names such as foolhardy, zombie, maga/mumu. They would have thought his wife was using magic/witchcraft on him. Not Surprisingly, the same still happens nowadays. But Lapidoth will never allow their hurtful words of insults and ridicules get to him, he was fully focused on the ministry of his wife, Deborah. He was a man that understands the way God works.

I know men that support their women in all things that glorify God.

Thankfully and fortunately, I have seen, known and heard of men like Lapidoth in this our contemporary time who faithfully and steadfastly support their wives’/women’s purposes in life. We need to note that our women’s/wives’ purpose in life is not limited to church or home alone but virtually everywhere. These men never see their women’s successes as obstacles nor do they see them as hindrances to their own goals in life.

You can gladly help her anywhere and everywhere.

See, I want to be an exemplary husband like Lapidoth if God’s will, even when the world calls me foolhardy or mumu (fool). If you are still thinking that your woman’s success in life will not allow her to submit to you as her husband, then you must be suffering from inferiority complex and your ego will not allow you to see how weak you are. 

Let it always be your joy and happiness that your wife, sister, daughter and girlfriend is doing so well in life. Support her, don’t let any man/woman/relatives/parents/friends dicourage you from helping her to fulfil God’s purpose and plan for her life.

Always dare to be like Lapidoth!!

God bless you as you strive to be like Lapidoth.


Beauty, Simplicity And Decency

In a society where immorality is high and it’s going to be worst day by day. It shows that our society is going insane everyday. Things that cannot  be displayed for the public view before is now freely shown to the world through indecent dressing and nudity on our screens, phones, sites and so on.

I watched a video of a young woman that was publicly disgraced by some young men because she dressed scantily and indecently in the public and I felt sorry for her, but just as the saying goes “you will be addressed by the way you dress.” Don’t forget that prostitutes dressed indecently in order to attract men that are looking for sex for themselves, so if you are not looking for sex you should not dress in the way that will expose your private parts or cleavages.

So if you dress indecently don’t be surprised if various types of guys especially the unworthy ones begin to whistle at you and also demand sex from you, just know you asked for this undue attention because of your dressing.

Decency should portrays your image to the world

It baffles me how some parents will encourage their young female children to dress immodestly in skimpy dress to parties or outings, unknown to them they are exposing their children to sexual predators. It is high time we started encouraging our young women to appreciate their beauties without exposing their bodies for the world to see. Let us encourage them to appreciate tthemselves without seeking for the opinions of others. Our young women should focus more on their character, intelligence, life goals, life purpose rather than on their physical appearance.

Let’s encourage decency above indecency in our society.

Parents should encourage their children to appreciate the way God made and be proud of themselves.

I’ve met some women that are physically beautiful but lacked good character to compliment such physical beauty which made me to dissociate myself from them. Hardly will you see a man that will be willing to spend the rest of his life with a woman that lacks good character (the same goes with a man that lacks good character). Most women complained about men cheating on them with other women despite how beautiful they are. See, I’m not disputing the fact that there are men that only seek after your body. What I’m saying is that you need to develop your person rather than your physical beauty.

I’ve met and know some young women that are beautiful both in and out without them exposing their bodies because real beauty lies in the character of a person. These young women are smart, intelligent, insightful with purpose of life coupled with wonderful character that only increase my respect and admiration for them.

Real beauty is portrayed in your character not in your physical body.

I will always encourage decency, beauty, good character and simplicity in our young women. There are much the woman can offer the man and the society at large than her body. There are things I feel comfortable discussing with my female friends than with my male friends even though some of them might be sensitive (not sex topics) but they tend to be more understanding and accommodating.

So, I hope we can start encouraging our young women about dressing decently without looking for people’s approval/disapproval. Let’s encourage them to pursue their life goals and purpose in life without allowing opposition to hinder them from getting to the top in life. Help them to develop good character through God’s Word and godly examples that will bring sanity back to our society and never to be intimidated by the opinions of others. Let’s appreciate the ones that are making good marks wherever they are despite pressures to follow the madness of immorality, indecency and deceptions being displayed in the society.

A beloved friend of mine said in her words: “Many youths of this generation need to understand that you don’t have to go naked before you proof to all of us that you are beautiful…it ain’t their faults though, but the mentality that has been imbibe in them. We need to be role models and create new sense of mentality to help build up decent way of dressing in them.”

I love this comment of hers and it summed up what I’ve been saying all along.

Let us encourage decency, simplicity+intelligence and good character+beauty among our young women.

I’m ready to do my part, will you do yours??




God bless us as we do it together.

Don’t Give Up.

My journey with God has been full of ups and downs. Honestly, I’ve been struggling with porn, there are times I won’t yield to the temptation and there are I will yield to the temptation. I know God does not give us grace to commit sin but to live a life that is pleasing to Him without compromise. And I also know God is against sex outside marriage which I really agree with and also keeping myself till the right time, that is, marriage. It has not been easy living as a Christian in this sinful world but I must not lost my faith in God no matter what. I have to keep on fighting against the flesh, there are times I won and there are times I’m defeated. This actually shows that I need more of God’s presence in my life. I’m not going to give up because the devil is expecting me to give up and be drawn back to sin and eventually end up in hell with him. But thanks to God whose grace is always available to help me. I won’t give up!!
Are you also experiencing challenges, trials, battles and temptations? Please don’t give up because God is always with you even when He seems to be far away.
Ephesians 3:20 “Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think,according to the power that worketh in us.”
Just don’t give up my brother!! Don’t give up my sister!! You are in the right way and it is very narrow and rugged but never give up because God is with you.

Take it as it comes

Sometimes life can be so amazing and at the same time confusing, but I’ve learned personally is to take it as it comes.
We cannot change what we have been predestinated to do in life, so we’ve got to take life as it is.
Fortunately, when we have relationship with God life tends to be come easier and better for us. Having God in our lives does not mean we won’t experience challenges or trials or failures or mistakes or calamities, but that gives us assurance that God is constantly with us.
To me as a person, life is very easy and wonderful, this is so because I have learned to see good things about life, so I take it as it comes without worrying or complaining because nothing is without God’s approval or permission.
My point to you reading this article is to let you know that life is easy when you have God by your side.
God bless you!!